Four Years Ago, I had the biggest loss of my life…

Nicole with her Mom and sister.

Nicole with her Mom and Sister.

Alumni Wisdom by Nicole Lyons

To me, loss and lost are two completely different words, which have very different meanings. Loss is the process of losing someone where as lost is denoting something that has been taken away. Four years ago, I had the biggest loss of my life. My mom who was my best friend, passed away from breast cancer. It was the hardest thing that I had gone through in my entire life. I didn’t know what to do with myself, I wasn’t sure how to move on. Every one of my friends and family, said, “sorry for your loss”. I said, “There is no reason to be sorry, those types of situations are not in my control”. I know the difference between loss and lost, where as younger kids may not know the difference because their living parents or whomever don’t want to tell them sorry for the loss of your parent. My mom is not lost, and she never will be. She always has a place in my heart, and she always will no matter what. I didn’t lose my mom, she is gone but one day I will be with her again. I believe that people should know the difference between lost and loss, especially younger children. “Goodbyes are not forever, goodbyes are not the end they simply mean I’ll miss you until we meet again.”

Nicole Lyons

Nicole Lyons

Hi my name is Nicole Lyons and I am 21 years old. I currently attend Millersville University, studying Social Work. My mom passed away when I was a junior in high school and I had a really hard time. Family Lives On has a special place in my heart, they helped me remember all of the good memories of my mom. I am so glad that I was able to be a part of it. Nicole is a member of the Family Lives On Alumni Advisory Group.For more information about Family Lives On Foundation or to donate to help more children like Nicole celebrate annual traditions go to or click here.